Just because I was born in the United States does not mean I have to abide by its rules. I never gave my consent; it was just expected of me.

Most romantic relationships are special when one person is of greater importance than just about anyone else.

To be a part of this community, you must follow the rules and values set by the community. This allows communities to ostracize people who don’t live up to the ideal. This means that communities are not only defined by what they are but also by what they are not.

There will always be something to learn. To take my advice as absolute would be a mistake.

Yet, none of these things are who I am. If I had the option to do nothing, who would I be?

Rumination is an attempt to be comfortable with the negativity that has happened. I let the scenario roll over and over in my head just to be comfortable.

Not everything will be done with my consent, but it’s up to me to conclude that whatever happens, it was done for my greater good.

There’s this fear of the unknown, but I think this should also be complemented with trust.

Want your marriage to be both long and loving? Then you’ll have to invest in it.

Author Mungi Ngomane explores the lessons of ubuntu she learned from her grandfather, Bishop Desmond Tutu (1931–2021)