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How Your Thoughts Become Reality
Do I know the power of my mind? This article reminds me of the song “Rejoice” by Bishop T.D. Jakes and Steve Angello.
My thoughts usually determine how I feel, how I behave, and how I ultimately act. If I feel disappointed, I’ll behave like someone disappointed and continue to be disappointed. Yes, my mind has that much power. Even the smallest thoughts, like I don’t look cute enough, can cause a self-perpetual cycle of putting myself down, behaving like I am ugly, and then putting little effort into looking cute. Someone who believes they are socially awkward might muster up the confidence to go a rager but will probably see themselves in the corner with a red cup.
My thoughts are powerful because my actions reinforce my beliefs, and any belief contrary to the ones I hold becomes nonexistent. Let’s go back to our examples above. Someone who believes they aren’t cute enough will tend to believe the opinion. When someone tries to compliment them on their looks, it’s easier not to take the compliment and discredit what another person is saying compliments.
The truth is that my looks, shyness, or lack of skills are not holding me back. It’s my mindset that prevents me from growing out of it. With a more positive outlook, things can slowly change for me. Positive thoughts create positive actions, which create positive outcomes.
What can I do to have a more positive outlook? First, get rid of the labels I’ve placed on myself. It doesn’t matter if I call myself fat, ugly, poor, socially awkward, creepy, or whatever it is. Know that these labels are not who I am. Think about it. I don’t know a bird until I label it a bird. Even if I think these things, my thoughts don’t have to become who I am.
One way to know this truth is to notice when my labels aren’t reinforced. Notice when people congratulate me or compliment me instead of merely dismissing me. If I still have negative thoughts about myself, I should challenge those thoughts. Do something contrary to how I feel. If I’m not feeling cute, play dress up. If I feel socially awkward, I say hi to one person. These steps will start to get me out of my head and show me the real me. Even if you just think these things, your thoughts don’t have to become who you are.
Questions and Responses
Why are my thoughts so powerful?
Your thoughts shape your feelings, behaviors, and actions. They create a self-reinforcing cycle, meaning if you think negatively, you’re more likely to act in ways that align with those thoughts. Conversely, positive thoughts can inspire actions that lead to better outcomes.
How can I break negative thought patterns?
Breaking negative thought patterns involves recognizing and challenging them. Start small—if you feel unattractive, dress up or experiment with your style. If you feel socially awkward, push yourself to say hi to someone new. These small steps can disrupt the cycle and build confidence.
Are the labels I place on myself holding me back?
Yes, labels like “shy,” “ugly,” or “awkward” can limit your potential. Labels define how you see yourself and often become self-fulfilling prophecies. Letting go of these labels allows you to see yourself as more dynamic and capable.
How can I shift my mindset to be more positive?
To shift your mindset, focus on challenging and reinforcing negative thoughts. Pay attention to moments that contradict your negative beliefs—like receiving compliments—and embrace them instead of dismissing them.
Why is it hard to accept compliments?
It can be difficult to accept compliments if they clash with your internal beliefs. If you think negatively about yourself, you might dismiss praise because it feels inconsistent with your self-image. Acknowledging and accepting compliments can help you change this.
What practical steps can I take to improve my mindset?
Start by noticing when your negative labels aren’t true, like when people compliment or support you. Challenge your beliefs by taking small, positive actions that counteract them. Over time, these actions will help you align your thoughts with a more positive reality.
What happens when I act against my negative thoughts?
When you act contrary to your negative thoughts—like dressing up when you feel unattractive or engaging socially when you feel awkward—you begin to see yourself differently. These actions can create a more positive self-perception and new, healthier thought patterns.