Adding value to any relationship is pivotal no matter if you’re in a romantic relationship or working with co-workers. You wouldn’t want to be a partner who always takes and never gives. You hear that a relationship should be 50/50, but I kind of disagree with this notion. Wouldn’t be great if all parties were giving 100% of themselves without expecting much in return. You’ll have a more fulfilling relationship with anyone if you learn to give instead or receive. 

Before you can add value to one’s relationship, you must first need to know what your counterpart values. You would have to know and communicate with them because what you may perceive as value may be another person’s annoyance. Once this is established, the only other thing to do is remain mindful of those values and feelings throughout communication. 

Adding Value Through Service

Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth. 

– Muhammad Ali 

Everyone needs a helping hand and wouldn’t be cool if you could be that helpful person. Give away your skills because it’s something you love to do, and people will appreciate that you spend your time doing something it might take longer for them to do on their own. This could be as simple as helping around the house, collaborating with a coworker, or doing a favor for a friend. If you have the skill and the time, feel free to offer it up to someone in need. 

Adding Value Through Positive Affirmations 

Your attitude is like a box of crayons that color your world. Constantly color your picture gray, and your picture will always be bleak. Try adding some bright colors to the picture by including humor, and your picture begins to lighten up. 

– Allen Klein 

No one likes a negative person. If you do nothing, but complain, it would be hard for you to maintain relationship when it seems like every day is a struggle. On the other side, you can be that person that lifts someone from negativity. Show your partner how much you love them and how much you care. Make sure that they know they have a solid rock that supports them whenever they need it. When you talk to them ask them how their day was, and if you sense negativity, try to point out the positives. If that’s not possible, sometimes it’s good to just listen and not instigate any unwarranted feelings.