You might think you are being kind, but that’s not really the case.

 

When you say “yes” even though you want to say “no,” it isn’t truly an act of service. Instead, it can become a way to protect yourself, build a certain image, or create a sense that others owe you something.

 

This kind of “Selfish Yes” can slowly damage your relationships. It creates a gap between your true self and the version you show to others.

 

This quiz includes 20 straightforward questions about your interactions at home and with others. There are no right or wrong answers—just honest ones. By the end, you’ll discover which of four resentment patterns may be influencing your life: The Martyr, The Performance Artist, The Ghost, or The Debt Collector.

 

It’s time to take an honest look at yourself.