It’s good that we are talking about toxic masculinity during my time. One thing that seems to be missing is the heterosexual relationship that men have with women. The narrative, especially if you’re a black male like me, is that we don’t love girls. It’s money over women. Bros before hoes. It’s sucks that I even had to right those things because I really don’t want the blog to be derogatory. What if I told you on average that men actually fall in love with women faster.
According to a study surveying 172 college students, men were more inclined to profess their love for the opposite sex earlier than women. When it comes to fools being in love, we can start looking at the guys.
I guess the question to ask is why? From everything we know, women are the more emotional beings. Men are seen to be more pragmatic. Are these characteristics correct, or am I just stereotyping? I think it could be the case for most men, but if you’re anything like me, you’re searching for more. More can result from just having a meaningful relationship.
On the other end of the spectrum, the reason why women are more reluctant to say I love you is for protection. Women simply have a lot more to lose if they find themselves in a long-term relationship with another man. So while men are falling in love to capture the women of his eyes, the woman is actually thinking more long-term, not willing to place herself in a bad predicament.
Another reason why men profess love sooner is because it can be used as a pitiful way to mark territory. For men, the objective is to secure the bond as quickly as possible and worry about the semantics later. The actual words of “I love you” don’t come out of the mouth of women because they are more risk averse. Saying those three words and actually meaning it comes with a vulnerability that women aren’t willing to show until they are very comfortable in the relationship.